A lot of times, we’re presented with relationship challenges as a way for us to grow, dear one. Infidelity, in a way, is the ultimate relationship challenge – and it promises the most spectacular growth, if you’re willing to see it that way.
The question for you and your partner is this: do you ultimately want the same thing?
Many, many relationships have survived infidelity. Survival happens when both people are moving in the same direction and willing to view it as a wake up call toward relationship evolution.
As a matter of fact, I was just talking to my client, Nikki, yesterday – and she said she was actually happy her husband cheated because it knocked her out of her comfort zone and forced her to grow.
Gaining new perspective and stepping into different, more empowering behaviors she is now light, happy (even giggly) and confident – sharing she feels like she can do anything and all the anxiety is gone.
Her hubby is coming around and making a big effort to get in her good graces again. Not only has he stopped criticizing her and giving her the cold shoulder, he’s happily cuddling up with her on the sofa and she’s planning romantic escapades.
Maybe you, like Nikki, need a different skill set, better communication skills, better boundary setting and self honoring, more practice offering forgiveness, or a better understanding of each other.
The clients I work with who end up saving the marriage always tell me the same thing: the relationship ends up being better, stronger and more loving than ever as a result.
So, gorgeous, if you have a hunch that it’s worth working through it, chances are that it really is.
Whether or not you’re considering sticking it out, here are 3 things you can do to help yourself view the cheating as a blessing instead of harboring resentment:
Take time for yourself. Give yourself space, and be gentle with yourself. You deserve it.Look at the pieces. Ask yourself, “Is this relationship something that I want to stay committed to?”
Seek growth. Embrace the opportunity for growth – because I promise, it’s there.
Wherever you are on your journey, focus on loving yourself and being gentle with yourself. You deserve it, beautiful, and you will come out on the other end stronger and more fulfilled than you ever imagined.
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