Let’s be honest.
This past month has been reeeaaally challenging on so many levels. So many clients and friends who initially were doing ok are now feeling worried about
finances, fearful of getting sick and having new stressors in their relationships since having to hunker down with each other 24/7.
We’re all experiencing some version of change in the current crisis that has for many, due to fears, caused us to close down…especially our hearts. But here’s the truth – in every adversity there is a hidden opportunity – we just have to find it.
As John Maxwell, leadership experts says, “every crisis tests your values and principles and offers growth, learning and expansion.”
So if you find yourself rubbing up against some inner turmoil or upset with your partner it’s actually good news – it’s a time to reflect and acknowledge whatever has been buried or avoided up until now is coming up for healing.
And the truth is everyone deserves to live a life filled with love and loving connections. So how can we intentionally create and experience more love? Although many of us look for love on the outside, the path to love really begins inside.
This Rumi quote describes it perfectly:
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. ~ Rumi
Too often, the lack of deep love in our lives comes from a lack of self-love and self-compassion. Many of our love barriers were created to protect ourselves from our own inner critic. Most of us are incredibly hard on ourselves. When faced with our flaws the negative self chatter starts: “I’m not good enough. I’m worthless.” “I’m not interesting enough.” “I’m too old – who would want me?”
And of course, the goalposts for what counts as “good enough” seem always to remain out of reach. No matter how well we do, someone else always seems to be doing it better. The result of this line of thinking is sobering: Millions of people suffer from insecurity, anxiety, and depression, and much of this is due to self-judgment, to beating ourselves up when we feel we aren’t measuring up.
So what’s the answer?
To stop judging and evaluating ourselves altogether. To stop trying to label ourselves as “good” or “bad” and simply accept ourselves with an open heart. To treat ourselves with the same kindness, caring, love and compassion we would show to a good friend.
The secret to feeling more love is to practice staying open to love.
Develop a compassionate heart for yourself and others. Jesus talks a lot about the importance of compassion – for yourself and others. Having compassion for others starts with having gentle kindness towards yourself.
When you feel safe with yourself – knowing you are your own best-friend; others will be drawn to you with an open heart. The opportunities to both give and receive love will be abundant.
Love is one of those things that it’s so expansive and infinite in nature; we will never have “too much” of it. We can only acquire more. Which is kind of the whole point isn’t it? When we heal ourselves more and more we can receive all of life’s blessings and love.So get in there, work it out.
Remove any and all things that may be getting in the way of you experiencing MORE LOVE in your everyday life. My desire for you is that the healing and the experiences that have arisen from this pandemic give you a magnificent gift to grow and grow and grow with each new day.
P.S. Want support in discovering how to heal relationally and bring more love into your life? In between my coaching and virtual speaking schedule, I carve out a few strategy sessions each month.
If you would like a complimentary strategy session (Value = $250), simply go to my online calendar and book a chat with me HERE.