Relationship Advice: Dear Sparkle…

Dear Sparkle,

How do I get clarity about what I want and ask for it with confidence?”
Thanks….Dazed & Confused

Dear Dazed & Confused,

Thank you for your question!

Here are two ways to get clear about what you want:

  • The easiest way to get clarity about what you want is to start becoming aware of what you DON’T want. Get yourself a little notebook to put in your purse and start making a list of all the things you know for certain are not desirous. And keep collecting data. Every time you make a new discovery add it to the list. Review your list on a regular basis and you’ll start to see what you like by clearly seeing what you don’t like.
  • Another option is to try different things and see what you enjoy and what you don’t. Take action, pay attention and soon the veil will be lifted.

Once you know what you want, ask for it with CONFIDENCE. Here are a couple of suggestions:

  • If you are in a relationship why not make a list entitled, ” My Hero...,” or, ” Ways my Manly Man can make me feel like a Queen.” Men love to please women – but they often don’t know what to do and girlfriend, I’m here to tell you, they cannot read minds! So why not make life easy by letting them know everything they can do for you to be your hero? Everything is so clear when it’s written down…no room for miscommunication.
  • Asking with confidence means knowing you deserve what you are asking for. This is your inner game. So, ask with the energy/tone that you fullly expect to get what you are asking for.  Any hesitation or timidity sends out the message that you don’t feel worthy. If you have any self-doubt practice with a friend for honest feedback. Mirror practice is also excellent. Notice your posture…is your head high, shoulders back, standing tall? Also, the tone and cadence of your voice is important – confident people speak slowly.

Have fun with these tools – I’m sure you’ll be signing off as CLEAR & CONFIDENT in no time:-)

Love & Freedom,