This morning as I entered the Agape sanctuary I was slightly bummed to discover Michael Beckwith was out of town – my soul was looking forward to hearing his passionate voice. However, my disappointment turned to delicious excitement as it was announced that Don Miguel Ruiz (The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom, A Toltec Wisdom Book) would be our guest speaker I LOVE this man’s work and now I was going to get to hear him speak – woohooooo!!!

I found him to be an amazing messenger of love. I am inspired to bring his message to you, my peeps, in hopes of enriching you and your relationship.

So, let’s start with an invitation – Will you help me change your relationship?

The relationship you have with your mate starts with the relationship you have with yourself… Each of us is an angel with a unique message to give to the world.

So what is the message you deliver to yourself and then your love? Is your message clouded by the voice in your head that is judging and running your life?

Most people have a conflicted tape running in their head – what is truth vs. what is lies. The biggest lie is that we are not perfect. So if you feel “less than” what message are you giving your partner? How is this affecting the giving and receiving between the two of you?

For a healthy coupling we need to love ourselves first because we cannot give what we don’t have and it’s not fair to look to someone else to give this to us.

Here are some simple truths to live by:

• All my happiness depends on me.

• I am responsible for the decisions and choices I make.

• I don’t blame anyone for where I’m at and what’s happened to me in my life.

• It’s time for forgiveness and letting go.

• Right here, right now, I live in gratitude.

It is impossible to change another person…but how inspiring to change yourself and then watch the dynamics of your relationship change as you begin to love yourself.

So…will you please help me change your relationship?