Have you ever been in a situation where you really wanted to create connection and felt frustrated because it just didn’t seem like it was possible and you could feel distance flooding in? It’s true, some connection just happens on it’s own but it is possible to create connection and turn things around.
So how do you “create” connection?
I was just interviewed on Marni Battista’s Real MomTV discussing the top 4 ways to connect with men – here’s what we discussed:
#1 – Playfulness – playing leads to a more joyful state of being – the big benefits here are that it leads to more happiness and joy – and who doesn’t want to be around someone who is happy? It also keeps you present – most of us spend the majority of our time in the past or in the future which keeps us separate and isolated. In order to connect we have to be present. When you are light and playful your message is much more likely to be heard and taken in.
#2 Come from your heart and not your head – People connect when they feel you. Coming from your head creates separation and puts up an invisible wall – it can make a man feel like a servant. When you come from your heart you pull him in and he feels like they are part of the situation. Total win-win.
#3 – Eyes – when you look directly into someone’s eyes it creates an immediate connection. Think about it – when you talk to someone are you busy gathering up things or multi-tasking? This will make the other person feel unimportant, disconnected and they’ll soon tune out.
#4 – Relatedness – you may say you want to connect but how are you living your life? Are you waiting for men to approach you or are you reaching out? Do you avoid carpooling or interacting with others? Can’t wait to get home and watch a movie or read a book or get on the internet? We feel alone and lonely when we don’t connect – we are meant to be there for each other.
Voila! Now that you’ve got 4 great ways to connect go out there and make it happen!!