Are the holidays bringing you down? With basically 2 weeks left till we bring in the New Year, are you happy with where you are at for the year?
Or…have you spent 2016 wrestling in a rut and you don’t know how to get out? Maybe you were broadsided with a relationship ending that was totally unexpected and you feel sad. Stuck. Stalled.
Or…you didn’t get that promotion or lose that weight or write that book.
All those big hopes and dreams you once had for yourself seem like they’re on a distant horizon, miles away and no longer in sight.
Being stuck can really take a toll on you emotionally making it hard to be happy and to feel confident as a woman. You don’t know what to do to get unstuck, so you shrink up and silently suffer.
I just got off the phone with a woman who shared she is going through a divorce after 37 years of marriage and is devastated – she can barely make it through the day and the holidays just make it worse.
You may not be experiencing the same thing, but you may have your own disappointment with thoughts like, “This is NOT how I thought my life would turn out, not what I signed up for, not what I was expecting.”
If you’ve been feeling this way, or have ever felt boxed-in, it’s time to end the needless suffering and frustration. There’s a simple solution that will empower you and get you moving toward a bright future. It’s simple – not always easy but always effective…make a new choice and you will find yourself in a new reality.
Yes!! You have the power of choice! Choose to get unstuck, choose to stop feeling miserable, choose to be more disciplined.
I can totally relate…there was a time I was very unhappy with my circumstances – I had reached a real low. I remember saying, ENOUGH! I was fed up and knew if I kept doing the same old thing I would keep getting the same disappointing results. I made a promise to myself to change – thinking if not now, when? If I don’t do it now will I ever?
So I chose to engage in new behaviors and daily discipline. Was it easy? Honestly it was scary as heck and in the beginning I felt very wobbly – but after a week I got into a groove and within a month my life had changed so dramatically it seemed a miracle had graced me. Those new choices gave me a new wonderful reality.
The same is possible for you! Your new choices can be anything from changing your physical location to changing your attitude or perspective.
Whether single, divorcing or married, there are many circumstances or environments you may wish you weren’t in. The key is not to let your circumstances have you.
You always have two choices: Keep things status quo ( and miserable) or choose a new reality ( and empower yourself).
Creating a new reality starts by making new choices. There are always different options available in every situation and it is up to you to decide what you want for your life. Make it a habit to choose that which will empower you and make you most happy.
Our insightful forefather, Abraham Lincoln, says, “People are about as happy as they decide to be.” If you think about it, there is such wisdom in his statement. How you live your life is nothing more than a mind-set and the choices you make.
If you choose not to change your mind-set you’ll experience the following three things:
- Attract more of the same – living a Ground Hog’s day existence.
- Anxiety or annoyance – creating a negative vibe.
- Discomfort to those around you. Yes, your mood directly affects those around you.
You may think you have the best poker face in town but your vibes speak volumes. Not only can you not hide your inner thoughts, they are magnetically attracting an equivalent match and bringing you more of what you don’t want. And you don’t want that sister!
If you do not ditch this energy, you’ll wake up with it and start your day behind the eight ball and have another crappy day. On the other hand, if you choose to create a new reality you will empower yourself and your life.
Here’s an example:
One of my clients, Janine, did a brilliant job of changing her reality with her husband. She and her husband of 30-plus years were having a lot of marital problems. They had been living like roommates for several months and nowhere near as close as she desired. She had just enrolled in a course with me and decided to listen to one of the bonus calls with a sensuality expert who gave lots of tips on how to seduce your man without saying a word.
One night she decided to try out a suggested seductive pose along with other flirty techniques she learned. When she heard her husband drive up she got into a curvy, sexy pose but he barely noticed her. She didn’t take it personally because she remembered the expert saying men need a woman to look at them at least four times before they “get it.”
God love her, she did not give up! Nor did she allow her husband’s non-responsiveness to shut her down. Instead, she patiently continued to pose every chance she got and noticed something was starting to change inside of her — she started to feel good about herself and continued for her own pleasure.
Low and behold her husband suddenly locked eyes with her; they flirted and kissed and had the most passionate night she could remember in ages! She was giddy with excitement and shared that she felt sensuous, feminine and fabulous.
It’s no coincidence that he noticed and wanted her exactly when she got to this point — she was dwelling in the sweet spot of her magnificence without any external need of attention.
That’s the secret we learn: When we are in right relationship with ourselves and take responsibility to make choices that make us happy all good things flow to and from us.
It’s a valuable lesson for anyone wishing to get unstuck. Whenever you are in a situation that doesn’t make you happy, remind yourself that choices are always available to you. Make a conscious decision to choose that which will empower you and bring you the most joy.
Just a slight shift in your perspective can bring a 180-degree change in your reality. It may also open a door to learn something new about yourself and most certainly the realization that you have the power to create your reality.
The choice is always yours; stay stuck or create a new reality like the sparkling soul you are. Who will you choose to be?