Laughter is very sexy—particularly in the bedroom. Is your sex life full of silly fun? If not, you are missing out on one of the easiest ways to bring you and your partner closer together. Laughing shows you are willing to release inhibitions, let down your guard, and let go of unhealthy tensions. In addition, when you laugh you become present—living in the moment—inviting connection and creating the space for deeper intimacy.
Interestingly, laughter and sex produce similar physical reactions—both increasing body temperature and leaving you feeling warm, wonderful, and totally relaxed. So why not bring some silliness into the bedroom to bond in new and powerful ways?
Here are a few ideas to get the giggling going:
1. Try a new position that rivals Cirque du Soleil.
2. Try body painting, and find your partner’s ticklish spots!
3. Watch bad porn.
4. Play naked Twister with some naughty new rules.
5. Roll some dirty dice (one with body parts and the other with actions—easily found online).
6. Do the tango wearing nothing but a red rose in your teeth.
7. Play charades making funny faces and motions.
8. Use your limitless imagination!
Unfortunately, many people try to avoid funny situations fearing they might look foolish or be laughed at or rejected. The truth is, when you hold yourself in check, wanting to look perfect, afraid of what your partner will say or do, you put up an invisible wall that creates separation—the opposite of what you and your relationship should desire to attain. When you are worried about what the other person thinks, you have this swirl of anxious thoughts that keeps you closed off. Why not open up to having some fun and trying new things? It will allow your significant other to see another side of you as well as bring fresh sparks to your sex life.
Laughter adds both sexual and emotional intimacy to a relationship. When you play and laugh you become fully present, which allows you to connect. Most people have a tendency to live in the past, dwelling on negative emotions like anger and regret—or they fret about the future. According to a Harvard University study by Killingsworth and Gilbert, adults spend only about 50 percent of their time in the present moment. The researchers discovered that people spend the other 50 percent with their mind wandering, and that “a wandering mind is an unhappy mind.” On the other hand, they concluded that a “present” mind is generally joyful—thus, laughing and playing adds happiness to a relationship.
Have you ever noticed how much energy and enthusiasm children have? One of the reasons for this is because they laugh a lot. They don’t spend much time worrying or thinking negative thoughts, which exhaust us and weigh us down. When your energy is light and happy your partner will be much more drawn to you, creating a positive environment for emotional and sexual intimacy.
Laughter also creates connection, one of the top things people complain is missing from their relationship. Dr. Barbara Fredrickson of the University of North Carolina found that positive emotion expands our…
to your sparkling laughter:))