Do you crave romance? Is your relationship suffering from a loss of passion? Let’s face it – if you’ve settled into a rather routine life together the tingles do go away. Like everything in life that’s of value to you, time and attention are needed to keep it sparkling.

Every week I have clients asking me how to bring the passion back into their love life – so if you are like so many women who are starving for affection and dream of being ravished take some time to read how you can take the bull by the horns and bring things back to life.

This article was originally written for Valentine’s day but considering we have just entered the romantic months of summer I thought it a good idea to repeat this article because romance should never be relegated to just one day a year but instead reveled in consistently and constantly:)

So if romance is missing in your relationship take time right now to read this article and make a plan to rev up your romantic life!

Once upon a time, you couldn’t keep your hands off each other. You strolled hand in hand stealing kisses in shadowy places. He snuggled close to hold you on the couch. He planned dates, surprised you with gifts and texted you with naughty innuendos.

In those days, love was so easy. Chemistry ruled the day and starry eyed, you dreamed of the future you were sure was destined for you as a couple.

Fast forward 5 years…

Ahhhh the warm sensual days of summer have arrived…thoughts of romantic adventures dance thru your mind…until you stop and remember that the original heat, fire and chemistry are long ago forgotten, you and your sweetheart have settled into life. Children may have arrived on the scene or your two careers may be absorbing a big chunk of your time. Economic worries and aging parents might be pulling at your heart.

Things have changed between you and your man and you are not happy about it, right?

If you are like most of the women who contact me every day about their lackluster love lives, I bet your life is scheduled in lines and columns on a spread sheet. Did you know that this manic need to organize your time is part of the masculine energy that has been running your life?

More true than ever before, as women are stepping up to match men in earning power, being feminine is often viewed as being weak. Let me tell you a little secret, nothing could be farther from the truth. There is nothing more powerful than a woman in touch with her inner essence, that charismatic sparkle.

That sparkle, the shining light in the core of your being is leading you, whether you are aware of it or not, to the truth of who you are. Your masculine hard working self is important and you need it but unless you know how to access your femininity, your man will see you as a friend or buddy but not as a lover.

1. Planning: Everything is on your Daytimer, right? Is your love life? Probably not. Just as you plan your day or week, it is critical that you schedule time to nurture your relationship.

Some times my clients complain that this takes the romance out and I stop them in their tracks with this question: “How’s it working for you?” Dr. Phil asks that question all the time. If you are not getting enough romance, why not try scheduling, it can’t get you less romance than you have now, can it?

2. Prioritize: Once you schedule “Romance Time” on your calendar, treat it as you would the most important business meeting of your career. – No cancelling no matter what. Commit to creating a new connection with your man. Even if all you do is sit on the couch and watch a movie, scheduling that as Romance Time on your calendar sets an intention and that intention changes everything.

3. Prepare: Put yourself in your man’s shoes. Look at life through his eyes. What would HE consider fun? Where can you take him that would light him up? This is the time to let the party planner you out of the bag.Think FUN.